This is a difficult question, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. Suicide prevention month September is when we focus on suicide awareness and prevention, and it is an excellent time to talk about this challenging subject. Every situation is different, and there are no right or wrong answers. However, here are some general guidelines to help you decide when to tell a child their parent has committed suicide.
If the child is very young (under the age of five), it is probably best not to tell them. They are unlikely to understand, which could be traumatic for them. If the child is older (over the age of five), you will need to decide whether they are old enough to understand suicide and its implications. If you think they are, you should explain what has happened in a developmentally appropriate way. For example, you might say, “Your father/mother died by suicide. This means that he/she intentionally took their own life.” It is essential to be honest with children and keep their level of understanding in mind.
It would help if you also considered how much the child knows about suicide. If they have never heard of it, you will need to explain what it is and why it happens. If they are already familiar with suicide, you can provide more information about what happened in this particular case.
It is also essential to consider how the child will react. Some children may be inquisitive and want to know all the details, while others may not want to talk about it at all. It is essential to respect the child’s wishes and not force them to talk if they don’t want to.
Finally, it would help to consider whether other adults in the child’s life could support them through this difficult time. This might include grandparents, aunts or uncles, teachers, or counselors. If so, you can talk to them about what you plan to say to the child and ask for their help.
It is best to seek professional advice if you are still unsure when or how to tell a child that their parent has committed suicide. A counselor or therapist who deals with grief and loss can provide guidance and support. They can also help you plan what to say and how to deal with any questions or reactions the child may have.
Telling a child that their parent has committed suicide is difficult, but some general guidelines can help. The most important thing is to be honest with the child, respect their wishes, and provide support. If you are still unsure, seek professional advice.
